Friday, April 13, 2018

Preparing for Mother's Day after Loss

As Mother’s Day approaches, it’s important to remember that it can be a difficult holiday for those who have lost a child. It may be a painful reminder of the sons or daughters who are no longer here to share this special time. How can bereaved mothers cope when other mothers are being celebrated? What can they do when the day itself feels like another blow to their spirits?

Coping strategies can take effort at a time when energy is in short supply, but the following ideas may help grieving mothers and ease their suffering.

  • Decide that Mother’s Day is just another Sunday, and choose not to celebrate. 
  • Or, choose to honor the day by staying in the moment. If negative thoughts arise, try focusing on something else. 
  • During an event hosted by friends or family, remember the option to arrive late or leave early. Step away for quiet moments if needed. 
  • Be gentle, treating yourself with kindness and compassion.
  • Rest, drink plenty of water, and eat something nutritious. Avoid overindulging in alcohol or practicing other potentially unhealthy behaviors. 
  • Practice self-care. Go for a walk, listen to music, or watch a favorite movie.
  • Reach out to trusted loved ones for support.

Your grief journey is yours to navigate. The pain of the loss may be brought into focus on Mother’s Day, but you are not alone.

To attend a support group specifically for bereaved moms, contact Lorrie McCann, LMHC, CT at (239) 985-7716. For other help in dealing with feelings of grief and loss, please contact a Hope bereavement counselor at (239) 482-4673.